I don’t know where this saying originated from, but it stinks. How is having patience virtuous? According to dictionary.com, virtue is a noun that means: moral excellence; goodness; righteousness.
How does having patience relate to moral excellence? Who sets this standard and who says that having patience makes you righteous? I think patience is overrated. Patience is not virtuous nor is it righteous. Patience is a pain the butt. No one ever says “wow, your lack of patience is admirable!” and I doubt anyone ever will…
I’ve always been under the impression that not having patience is a bad thing. Translation: my lack of patience equals a severe character flaw? I’ve always known that my lack of patience is not a good thing but until recently I have never questioned it. I’ve always been told to “be patient” and “wait for it” but what I attribute my success in life to is not waiting and patience.
Good things come to those who wait. Isn’t that that saying? It doesn’t make sense, does it? Good things have never come to those who wait. “Time heals all wounds”. No, it doesn’t. Your wounds heal because you grow stronger not because you “waited for the storm to pass”. I’m not saying I dislike patience by any means or that these phrases should be abolished anytime soon. I just think we should question the requirement that “patience” be a virtue.
I’ve never been patient. In fact, I’ve always struggled when I have to wait for things. Usually when I want something, I do something to get it. I don’t patiently wait for it to happen. If anything, I am impulsive when I want something…but how is that a negative? I believe my lack of patience has gotten me where I am today. If I had been patient with manfriend, some other woman would probably be enjoying how incredible he is right now and if I had been patient with my job, I’d still be working 40 hours/week and wishing I could teach somehow. There a million other things I could add but I think those are two of the most important- right now.
My patience has really been tested lately and it has been so difficult for me to wait but this may be one time in my life where I actually have to wait. Maybe I’ll learn to be more patient and to fully understand “slow and steady wins the race”? Doubt it. I always thought the hare should have beat the tortoise because he seemed more worthy of it and because the hare desperately wanted to win. Why did we decide the tortoise deserved to win? Because he was patient and that made him more deserving? Boo on patience.
One area where I do believe patience is important though, is getting older. I don’t want to rush through my life. Sure, I think patience is over-rated, but that’s only when you really want something and that something is attainable if you don’t sit back and wait. I don’t want to rush to 50 or 60 because I like where I am now. I think aging is one area where the tortoise really deserves to win. I am sure when I do hit 50 or 60 that I will think my life showed more semblance to the hare, but for now- I’m patiently enjoying my “Journey to Thirty” in all the glorious tortoise fashion I can muster.